Sunday, 9 November 2014

Patriarchy.. From where it all Started

Patriarchy... another social practice that I have been studying since childhood, a word signifying inequality between men and women, where women are disadvantaged and oppressed. As a child I used to read, cram and write about it during examinations, but never tried to see the consequences of the same. As I am growing up the consequences are coming all in front of me slowly and steadily. 

The boys in most of the families are brought up with many phrases which unknowingly inculcates something bad in them.
Boys never Cry...!!
Boys should rule..!!
Boys are never Wrong..!!

Girls are being Raped.. Abused.. Attacked by acid.. and then Accused for the same. After attempting this with a girl, a boy like a vagabond, start searching for another prey. This is on since long. We read it, we feel sad, discuss about it and after a month or two, forget it as many new chapters of the same kind are already there to be discussed.

Patriarchy... this is where it all started... Wikipedia says, it is a social system, where fathers or father-figures hold authority over women and children. Authority??? A power or right, to give orders, make decision, and enforce obedience. A power to beat a woman when not in good mood and spill all your frustration out on her as if you have bring her home for this purpose only. A power to use her when ever you want to use. A power to throw her out of the house just because she is not well and sometime fails to fulfill your requirement. This is what a boy learns from his so called father figure and implement the same or something worst on his wife, love, girlfriend or someone unknown. Just because he wants to tell that yes I am a man and far more powerful than you.!

Being a girl, we face many things, listening to boy's useless comments and ignoring them is kind of our daily business today. Our heart says, we should not ignore that and answer them back, and mind warns us that they may show their power in the worst way possible and then we will become criminals in front of society.

But one thing I know is they are not born like this. Like every child, they too were innocent, pure, away from evil and hatred. Then who is responsible behind them to be like this. Why are they brought up like this that they see fun in all this? Why the hell can't they control themselves?

Every time and again something like this happens, we in a group create a scene against our government. How much the government is responsible for this? Is it CM or PM with home your son is staying. Are they the one who is inculcating habits good or bad in them? Are they the one who are teaching to disrespect women.

I am sorry to say, but if you are failing to teach your son the difference between good and bad doings and he is becoming a bad doer then no one else but you are the one to be blamed.

Instead of taking so much interest in Kiss of Love like protests where both the doers are equally involved, I think we should focus more on the things where your son is forcing someone else's daughter for something unwanted, unacceptable and kill him if you can't stop him..!!